Q&A: Loneliness, Intimacy and Body Positivity

How did you overcome loneliness? Have you ever been intimate with someone? How’s recovery and your body positivity journey going? They were all questions which I answered in January’s monthly Q&A over on my Instagram stories.

You can watch my answer here, or read them below.

Life

Q1. What are you going to be studying at University?

Journalism.

Q2. What are you most looking forward to in 2020?

Moving away for University!

Q3. How did you overcome loneliness?

It’s something that I do still struggle with at times – especially in the evenings or at the weekends when I don’t have anything planned. But, making new friends and going to college is something which has helped me massively. Having things planned to look forward to helps to keep me motivated and I’m hoping that going to University will help to improve the situation as well.

Q4. Any plans for another tattoo?

There is one more that I’m hoping to get at some point in the near future, but I can’t quite decide on the placement.

Q5. Have you ever been intimate with someone?

Yes!

Recovery

Q6. How is recovery and body positivity going?

Really well at the moment! Recovery in itself is going amazingly and I feel way closer to being recovered than I do to my eating disorder. As for my body, I have my wobbles but actually feel quite content and I feel the most confident that I have in a long time.

In the long run I’m aiming for body neutrality. Whatever my body shape, I know that I love (and will continue to love) the life that it enables me to live now.

Q7. Are you going back to exercise?

Yes! I have been taking longer dog walks than I had previously, which was such a natural progression and wasn’t forced at all.

For 3 or so years I pratcised yoga daily but I haven’t for over for 2 months, but it’s something which I would like to get back in to because I know that it had huge mental benefits for me.

My aim for the next week is to get back in to working out – having taken a 6+ month break, getting my period back and being at a healthy weight for my body, I feel like now is the right time for me. I’m going to be using the MasteredFit App, which contains completely tailored workouts and tutorials. You guys can also get 20% off with the code YASMINW20.

Q8. Are you still gaining weight or plateauing?

I haven’t been weighed since before Christmas, so I’m not completely sure. But going off of how my body feels, I think I have probably hit a plateau. My extreme hunger has subsided and I’ve stopped swelling up throughout the day, so I don’t think I have gained.

Q9. Have your normal hunger cues returned yet?

For the most part, yes.

Q10. Are social situations easier now that you’re more recovered?

Definitely! I feel so much more comfortable, confident and actually love meeting new people. I don’t worry about food being involved and I can happily do things spontaneously!

Q11. Will you be eating the same now that you’ve gained weight?

Since my extreme hunger has reduced, I haven’t been eating as much. I eat enough to feel satisfied and don’t have any plans to alter my intake.

An average day for me now is 3 meals, 1 snack and a dessert.

Q12. What new passions or hobbies that you have found since recovery?

I’m not sure if it counts as a hobby, but I do love a good night out!

Q13. Do you still have thoughts about going back to restriction because it might be the easier option?

No. For the point that I’m at now it’s definitely not the easier option. Plus I know how unhappy I was at that time and it’s something that I never want to go back to.

Q14. Your favourite distractions?

Listening to music, watching TV or reading.

Q15. Do you still use your recovery journal?

No. It was such a useful tool for me but I don’t feel the need to use it anymore.

You can read my blog post on how to start a recovery journal here.

Q16. Do you feel stuck to your ED because of your Instagram account and followers?

At times, yes. I think it’s partly why I’ve decided to take a bit of a step back from Instagram and spend less time on social media.

I’m so proud of how far I’ve come in recovery and it makes me so happy that I’ve been able to have a positive impact on and help others, but it’s not something that I want to talk about forever.

Q17. How to deal with diet culture in recovery?

It’s hard to deal with because it’s everywhere. As hard as it is, I really try my best to ignore it. I just remind myself that I’m at a different point in my life, on a different journey and that what they’re saying isn’t appropriate for me.

Q18. Has your extreme hunger gone away?

For the most part, yes!

Q19. Do you have any suggestions for the ED void whilst still unwell?

Spend time doing things that you enjoy that are completely unrelated to food and your body. Meet up with friends, family and push yourself outside of your routine and comfort zone. You can’t think yourself out of an eating disorder – it’s actions that do it.

Q20. Did you ever spend hours watching food related videos or reading recipes in recovery?

I was completely obsessed with food. I would spend all of my time talking and thinking about it. I would endlessly scroll Instagram and Pinterest looking at food and recipes. But as I’ve gained weight, it’s really not something that I’m interested in anymore.

Q21. How did you make the first leap in to recovery?

I asked for a referral to my local eating disorder team from my GP. I also set myself a list of the goals that I wanted to achieve, which helped to give my recovery purpose and has made it so much easier.

Q22. Was day or inpatient something which you ever considered?

I spent a short amount of time in hospital due to the physical implications of my eating disorder, but a longer stay isn’t something that I considered or was recommended.

Food

Q23. Since you’ve transitioned away from Veganism, have you incorporated any meat in to your diet?

I have eaten some meat, yes.

Q24. What animal products are you eating?

Eggs, fish, honey and dairy in the form of chocolate, cheese, desserts etc.

Q25. How do you come up with your recipes?

I usually come up with ideas of sweet treats that I would love that I haven’t seen recipes for before and I get a lot of inspiration from Pinterest too.

Q26. What are your favourite snacks at the moment?

I’m obsessed with the Oatein Salted Caramel Millionaire Crunch Vegan Protein Bars. I also love the Peanut Butter Choc Chip Lara Bar’s.

I always discover something new that I love in my monthly Life Box – you can get 50% off your first 2 boxes with my code nourishingyas.

Q27. What are your favourite meals right now?

I still love a good Vegan burger with sweet potato wedges, mashed avo, hummus and tahini! I’m also obsessed with Deliciously Ella’s pesto butter beans.

Keep up to date with my Instagram stories so that you know when I’m doing my next Q&A or leave any questions that you want answered in the comments below.

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Hi, I'm Yasmin! Plant based recipe developer and certified health and wellness influencer. I share simple, nourishing plant based recipes along with tips on healthy living, mental health and well being, in the hope that I can inspire others to be the healthiest and happiest versions of themselves.

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